The Intimacy Problem

I confess. I need it. We all do. And apparently we all develop neurotic behavior in order to avoid it! Why? Doesn't this seem evolutionarily counterintuitive? How does anyone ever become an emotionally healthy person? I am determined to be one. It seems that then and only then can you have non-neurotic truly intimate relationships. You have to be willing to share your feelings and needs with other human beings. How terrifying is that!! And yet... how rewarding.